The Child Within
BPD sufferers are often prone to child-like behaviour. Their psychological/emotional maturity was "stuck" or trapped sometime in their youth due to some kind of loss, neglect or abuse. So from that point they have only had the identity components and relationship capacity of the child they were at the time of their trauma.Therefore, in the borderline individual, you have a physical/intellectual adult and a psychological/emotional child. The child in them is distressed, angry, scared and as this child matures, he/she builds a fortress (a mask) which gives the appearance of competence and security.
As they grow, the borderline can sense this facade and not much inside themselves feels real. This in turn makes then feel empty and hollow. The emotions and intellect are way out of sync. The borderline's intellect is aware that something is wrong but they can't control or identify what it is. This does not get better as they mature.
The maturity gap between the psychological/emotional and the intellect of a BPD person is extremely wide and pronounced which causes major interpersonal conflicts. They are continuously swinging between adult and disturbed child.
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